Happy Friday :)
#1 Find safe spaces
This is a big one for me. Especially if you don’t have a car and live on-campus. You’re stuck there literally ALL THE TIME. I know what it’s like to have to sleep, eat, and go to school all in the same place. It can be a lot for someone trying to stay mentally sane.
Find spaces where you can think clearly. Where your ideas flow effortlessly. For me, when I was on-campus, the cafe and the library were my safe spaces.
Now that I’m not on campus, my safe spaces are Starbucks, Barnes and Noble, & other places I don’t want to disclose so they can remain my safe spaces lol!
#2 Call your loved ones as much as you need to.
The number one person I call multiple times a day, all day is my best friend. Sometimes talking to her is the only thing that makes me get out of bed and do something productive. I can always count on her for a good laugh! She knows my triumphs, as well as my struggles. 9/10 she always picks up and she’s the busiest person I know. She’s dependable.
So I guess by “loved ones” I would say someone who is also genuinely there for you. I don’t feel bad when I call 60x a day if I need to because she’s never made me feel bad for it and vice-versa. Facetiming my little sister gives me hope. She reminds me of why I am doing this and the familial barriers that I am breaking by continuing.
#3 Regulate your social media accounts.
Not only taking breaks, but utilizing the mute/unfollow buttons to your advantage. There was a period of time where every time I opened up Twitter there was an argument from students at my school, or some school-wide scandal among the students and it made me refrain from using the platform for days at a time because the energy was unhealthy. I like learning from social media, not seeing drama related content and bad energy. So I just began unfollowing and muting everyone from my school lol and I mean EVERYONE except for like 2 people. It really cleaned up my social media pages and I don't get anxious scrolling and get to see the content that is meaningful to me personally. Also, you don't need to be on social media everyday. Delete the app sometimes and redirect the hours you spend on these platforms into other things like homework, reading, and meditating.
#4 Make that counseling session appointment.
If you ever come to me with your problems I will listen and offer my best advice, but even more... I will recommend that you go to counseling. Counseling has freed me in so many ways. I understand my relationships with people better, I communicate better and the list goes on. Now I'm not going to lie, I didn't take my sessions seriously until recently, but once I started taking them seriously and implementing things that I have learned, I saw changes. Don't be afraid to go talk to a "stranger", or listen to what negative people might have to say about therapy. THIS IS FOR YOUR HEALING.
#5 Take care of you.
That money you spend on food every day? Maybe try to save it until you have enough for a massage. Get your nails done, get that wig installed, dye your hair a different color, read more. Whatever makes you feel good do it! I know that I don't feel like going out until I look good then I want to go everywhere, so if that's what it takes to get you out of bed then fine. This doesn't just go for outside appearance, but on the inside too. Eat healthier, try to workout (I hate this one, but I'm working on it), take vitamins, etc.
"How can you expect people to love you if you don't love yourself? When you show that you love yourself, you show people why they should love you." - a reminder I got from an old friend recently.